June 18th marked a special day! My son turned 5 years old and among other things he wished for, my family and I decided to take him to Legoland. Every year we take him to Chuck E. Cheese’s, but this year was different. He started kindergarten this August and Legoland was a step up from toddler to big kid. My fiance is a director of photography and a videographer so we captured tons of photos and videos of him enjoying what my son calls “The Most Epic Birthday Ever!”
After the birthday festivities, we returned home and just like any other millennial, we opened our phones and went straight to social media. I went through the pictures I had taken in my phone and began to create a collage of moments from the day and then stopped.
I am a very private person when it comes to my personal life on social media. I rarely share photos of my children and it’s even more rare that I share any of my significant other. I then decided to keep this moment to myself and add it to our collection of family photos and videos. It somehow felt like it was more special that way.
The next day was Father’s Day and nope, I didn’t acknowledge it on any of my social networks. Instead I scrolled down my timelines liking all the other posts from friends and family who felt statuses and pictures of their Father’s Day somehow made it more significant. I questioned how much more valuable is a Facebook shout out than having a private moment that belongs to you forever and not the world?
I think that social media takes away some of the magic of moments being more significant. Mostly because people are confusing likes for popularity instead of just posting it and moving on. It’s like they have to have likes in order for their moments to be special. When you have something so special and remarkable happen to you, I believe that the magic of it is more evident when you have it in the palms of your own hands. Not everyone else’s.
Sharing photos of my somewhat private life is one thing, but sharing my relationship is another. I frequently see my friends bragging about their newfound love or every once in a while I see them bashing their old or current relationships on social media once they break up.
6 years ago, when I first started dating my fiance, I read somewhere that 60% of breakups happen because of social media. At that point, I made it my business to make sure that never happened to me by cutting all ties. Call it weird, (because most have called it just that) but my fiance and I are not friends on any social network. Not just because of the statistics, but because we take joy in telling each other how we feel directly versus posting it on each other’s timelines. Again, it makes both of us feel like we have something more special and exclusive. It’s also kind of hot if you ask me.
Overall, not everything is for everybody. It’s okay to keep things to yourself for you to cherish later. Whether it’s accomplishments or goals, love and relationships, or just simply posting a status that pertains to holidays and such. 9 times out 10 that same holiday status is everywhere and yours just ends up getting caught up in the fog of everyone else’s. Instead of wishing happy birthday on your friends wall, go see them. Instead of professing your love on your next status, tell that person directly. Instead of showing off your next family vacation to the world, keep a few that’s exclusive to the ones that you love. I swear it’s not selfish when it’s something that you cherish. Though your moments are special, they’re even more amazing when they’re just yours.
What Do You Think?
Do you agree that your magical moments aren’t meant for social media? Why or why not? Leave your perspective in the comments below. All opinions are welcome :)